54: Nobody Wants to Learn Things If They’re Bored, with Lauren Mahan, teacher. (Special Guest Appearances by Nathan and Gavin Mahan)

January 11, 2019

Lauren Mahan is a fourth-grade teacher in Massachusetts, and my sister! That’s right, I’m celebrating the anniversary of the pod with family!  And since Nathan and Gavin are in fourth grade this year, and Lauren is their aunt, we had them sit in on the interview, and contribute their thoughts.  You’ll hear about 4th grade from both sides of the teacher desk.  (As well as on top of it!) 

In Today’s Episode We Discuss:

  • Why teaching every kid like they have ADHD works
  • How costumes affect the classroom
  • The influence of Ms. Frizzle
  • Showing your work
  • "Sideways Stories from Wayside School"
  • Writing on desks in math
  • Teaching on tables
  • ADHD is more than one fire to put out
  • Teaching sarcasm and fidgets
  • The importance of recess
  • The power of class pets
  • ADHD & Anxiety
  • If the kids didn't learn it, you didn't teach it

 

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53: Three Tiered Goal Setting & 2019 Intentions

January 4, 2019

In today's episode, I walk us through how I'm setting my goals for 2019.  I think you'll find it useful.  In fact, this is probably a good one to share with your middle school and older kids.  

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In Today’s Episode We Discuss:

  • Intentions vs. Resolutions
  • Setting goals with emotions in mind
  • SMART Goals
  • Pre-Mortems
  • Brendan's quest for a Black Belt
  • The role shame plays in derailing us from our goals
  • Using accountability & scheduling to keep our goals on track
  • Alexa as a reminder tool
  • The power of being a role model for our kids as a motivation tool
  • Happy New Year!

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52: ADHD & Giftedness with Dr. Robert Gruberman

December 28, 2018

Kids with both ADHD and giftedness, and often referred too as "Twice Exceptional".  Today, we're talking about them.  (But not behind they're back.  They're welcome to listen in.)

Our guest for today's episode is Dr. Robert Gruberman.

Robert is the director of his school district’s gifted and talented program.  He has been assessing and teaching gifted children in his district for nearly two decades, and has been a public educator for even longer.

In today’s episode, we discuss ADHD and giftedness through the lens of an academic expert in the field.  We talk about the various components of giftedness, and where they overlap with ADHD, the social emotional side of giftedness, how twice exceptional kids are affected by having both ADHD and giftedness, and how to help kids with ADHD, giftedness, or both, manage the challenges they face.

 

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In Today’s Episode We Discuss:

  • The various components of Giftedness
  • The Social-Emotional side of Giftedness
  • Models of the solar system upsetting a 4-year-old
  • The overlap between ADHD & Giftedness
  • Giftedness & ADHD are not two sides of the same coin
  • Shared characteristics, arrived at differently
  • But there’s lots of crossover
  • Giftedness and ADHD can exacerbate each other when they co-occur.
  • When school challenges become home challenges
  • Work in short bursts toward small, manageable goals
  • The importance of getting kids invested
  • The power of choice
  • Peer support
  • “All Summer in A Day”
  • Don’t rush to judgement

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51: Gifted with ADHD, with Aurora Remember Holtzman, ADHD & Gifted mother of an ADHD & Gifted Child

December 21, 2018

Today, we’re talking to Aurora Remember Holtzman.

Aurora is a school psychologist, host of the “Embracing Intensity” podcast, and a twice exceptional mother of a twice exceptional son. They both have ADHD and giftedness. 

In today’s episode, we’re talking ADHD and giftedness through the lens of someone who’s living it.  We explore growing up gifted, impulsiveness vs impulsiveness, the value of teachers who “get” your kid, and the importance of learning to self-regulate as a parent.

 

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In Today’s Episode We Discuss:

  • Growing up Gifted with ADHD
  • High achievers will achieve regardless of supports
  • Gifted kids struggling with Executive Function of Social Skills need support
  • The value of growing up with a foundation of acceptance and love
  • Adulting can be a challenge
  • Aurora’s son being too distractible to nurse
  • The effects of missing meds
  • Missing meds is not an excuse for poor behavior
  • Looking for the off-kilter reasons for behavior
  • Compulsive or Impulsive?
  • Looking at behavior through the lens of Dopamine
  • Relationships with teachers affects engagement
  • Exponential reactions to stressors
  • “Self Reg” by Stuart Shanker
  • It's hard to not escalate when your kid is melting down
  • The importance of learning to self-regulate as a parent
  • Weaknesses as the flipside of a strengths

 

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50: Talking to Our Kids About Sex (Our Context is Not Their Context) with Erika Miley, Mental and Sexual Health Therapist

December 14, 2018

We made it to 50 episodes!!  Thanks for being a part of it

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You might want to preview this if you tend to listen with your kids, because in this episode, we're discussing how to talk to our kids about sex. 

Today, Erika Miley guides us through talking to our kids about sex.  We start with talking to younger kids about sex, and the move on to older kids as the episode progresses.  Regardless of the age of your child, there should be something in this episode that you find useful.

You can find Erika at www.ErikaMiley.com.

 

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Registration closes next Friday, December 21st.

 

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In Today’s Episode We Discuss:

  • Kids can learn about it from you, or from the internet.  Your choice.
  • When to start talking to kids about sex
  • Where to begin when talking about sex.  (Hint: It’s not intercourse.)
  • Typical developmental behavior
  • Helping kids understand consent
  • You don’t need to tell the about everything at once.
  • The importance of really listening
  • Times to talk to kids about sexual safety
  • Why we shouldn’t use cutesy names for genitalia
  • Sex talk with older kids
  • The importance of open-ended questions
  • Ask the question, shut your mouth
  • “Let me give you context.”
  • It’s okay to say, “You don’t want to know.”
  • Working as a parenting team
  • Porn will come to your kids
  • And it’s performance.  Not reality
  • Where to get better sex info
  • Scarleteen.com
  • Every question is an opportunity
  • Give the gift of curiosity
  • Our context is not their context
  • Kids talk above their heads
  • Dopamine seeking behavior & playing with sexual language
  •  Framing sex conversations around family values
  • Relationships > Sex
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49: Talking Organization with Cindy Jobs, Professional Organizer & ADHD Coach

December 7, 2018

Today, we’re talking to Cindy Jobs.

Cindy is a professional organizer and ADHD coach who I met at last month’s ADHD conference.  And I’m really glad I did, because organization is a thing we ADHD folks tend to struggle with.

In today’s episode, we talk about organization as a balance between space and stuff, the clutter/anxiety connection, and making holiday kits.

 

In Today’s Episode We Discuss:

  • Why Cindy enjoys working with ADHD folks
  • The benefits of having a "Why"
  • Organization takes time
  • Brendan's two organizational insights (that came to him really late in life)
  • Clutter correlating with anxiety
  • Closet drama
  • Getting rid of duplicates 
  • Looking at space like real estate
  • Storing like things together
  • Organizing through kits
  • The geography of organization
  • Reducing the barrier to entry
  • Reducing the barrier to completion
  • Organizational consent

 

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48: An ADHD View from Down Under with Jon Hassall of Connect ADHD

November 30, 2018

Jon and his wife Monica run Connect ADHD out of Australia.  Jon’s a brilliant guy, and we go deep on multiple topics related to ADHD.  In today’s episode, we talk about how ADHD leads to our kids’ behavioral explosions, how environment affects our ADHD, the importance of science in ADHD.

I got to spend time with Jon (and Monica. Her workshop was excellent!) at this year's ADHD conference, and editing the show this week felt like I was reuniting with him. I look forward to continuing our relationship in the future.

 

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In Today’s Episode We Discuss:

  • Jon’s ADHD Origin Story
  • ADHD Coaches as the Missing Link for Big Pharma
  • How Jon works with his clients
  • ADHD & Potential
  • Why Scientific Studies spoke to Jon
  • ADHD & moments of connection
  • How & Why Brendan does his first sessions.
  • ADHD Explosions:  The Neurochemistry, and recovering afterward
  • Fight, Flight, Freeze, (Fib)
  • Forgiving & Fixing
  • The Underpinning of “We’re all good people”
  • Russell Barkley’s Extended Phenotype model of ADHD
  • Brendan’s Executive Function Algebra
  • Jon’s Performance Influences Model for Executive Function
  • The  Myths of ADHD
  • Monitoring your inner voice
  • Using Monitoring, Referencing, and Self-Direction to manage ADHD

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47: The History of ADHD at School with Richard Kelley, Veteran Educator for Over Four Decades

November 23, 2018

Today, we’re talking to Richard Kelley!

I've received excellent feedback on past episodes that looked at the history of ADHD through a personal lens.  So, I decided to bring in my friend Richard Kelley.  Rich is an Assistant Executive Director with the Massachusetts School Administrators Association (MSAA).  And he has been working in education for longer than I've ben alive.  (Admittedly, only by a year.)

(Side note:  I erroneously identify Rich as the President of MSAA during the interview.  Thankfully, he corrected me.  Sometimes the ADHD wins.) 

In today’s episode, Rich shares his experience as an educator for over 42 years, and how he’s seen the approach to ADHD at school change over the decades.  It's an interesting conversation.  I hope you enjoy it! 

 

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46: This ADHD Life with Keith Griffin, ADHD Coach

November 16, 2018

Today, we’re talking to Keith Griffin!

Keith is an ADHD coach, and host of “This ADHD Lifeon YouTube.  He’s also got a webinar on surviving the holidays with ADHD coming up through the Attention Deficit Disorder Association.  

Keith can be found at ThisADHDLife.com.

 

In Today’s Episode We Discuss:

  • Information Overload
  • How music can help our morning routines
  • No screens in the bedroom
  • Productivity Tips
  • Tragic Stories
  • How to Positivify
  • Brendan's "Today's Awesome" gimmick on FB
  • The difference between eating watermelon and eating grapes
  • Self advocacy
  • And doing less

 

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45: Done is Better than Perfect at the International Conference on ADHD 2018

November 9, 2018

I'm at the International Conference on ADHD.  Here is a brief episode where I share a few takeaways.  

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