ADHD Essentials

Today, we’re talking to Aurora Remember Holtzman.

Aurora is a school psychologist, host of the “Embracing Intensity” podcast, and a twice exceptional mother of a twice exceptional son. They both have ADHD and giftedness. 

In today’s episode, we’re talking ADHD and giftedness through the lens of someone who’s living it.  We explore growing up gifted, impulsiveness vs impulsiveness, the value of teachers who “get” your kid, and the importance of learning to self-regulate as a parent.

 

Guest Links:

• Aurora's Website: http://www.auroraremember.com
• Embracing Intensity Podcast:  http://www.auroraremember.com/embracing-intensity 

 

Shameless Plugs:  

• Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events/ for details about the monthly Q&A with Eric Tivers.
• Learn about The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups!
• Or register at https://www.adhdessentials.com/sign-up/
• Join the ADHD Essentials Facebook Community

 

In Today’s Episode We Discuss:

• Growing up Gifted with ADHD
• High achievers will achieve regardless of supports
• Gifted kids struggling with Executive Function of Social Skills need support
• The value of growing up with a foundation of acceptance and love
• Adulting can be a challenge
• Aurora’s son being too distractible to nurse
• The effects of missing meds
• Missing meds is not an excuse for poor behavior
• Looking for the off-kilter reasons for behavior
• Compulsive or Impulsive?
• Looking at behavior through the lens of Dopamine
• Relationships with teachers affects engagement
• Exponential reactions to stressors
• “Self Reg” by Stuart Shanker
• It's hard to not escalate when your kid is melting down
• The importance of learning to self-regulate as a parent
• Weaknesses as the flipside of a strengths

 

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You might want to preview this if you tend to listen with your kids, because in this episode, we're discussing how to talk to our kids about sex. 

Today, Erika Miley guides us through talking to our kids about sex.  We start with talking to younger kids about sex, and the move on to older kids as the episode progresses.  Regardless of the age of your child, there should be something in this episode that you find useful.

You can find Erika at www.ErikaMiley.com.

 

Shameless Plugs:  

I’m offering 3 sessions of the ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups.  They’ll start the week of Jnaiuary 20^th.  One session will be at noon on Mondays and Wednesdays.  Another at noon on Tuesdays and Thursdays, and the final session will be Tuesdays and Thursdays at 5pm. 

• Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events/ for details about the monthly Q&A with Eric Tivers.
• Learn about The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups!
• Or register at https://www.adhdessentials.com/sign-up/.

Registration closes next Friday, December 21^st.

 

Guest Links:

• You can find Erika at www.ErikaMiley.com.

 

In Today’s Episode We Discuss:

• Kids can learn about it from you, or from the internet.  Your choice.
• When to start talking to kids about sex
• Where to begin when talking about sex.  (Hint: It’s not intercourse.)
• Typical developmental behavior
• Helping kids understand consent
• You don’t need to tell the about everything at once.
• The importance of really listening
• Times to talk to kids about sexual safety
• Why we shouldn’t use cutesy names for genitalia
• Sex talk with older kids
• The importance of open-ended questions
• Ask the question, shut your mouth
• “Let me give you context.”
• It’s okay to say, “You don’t want to know.”
• Working as a parenting team
• Porn will come to your kids
• And it’s performance.  Not reality
• Where to get better sex info
• Scarleteen.com
• Every question is an opportunity
• Give the gift of curiosity
• Our context is not their context
• Kids talk above their heads
• Dopamine seeking behavior & playing with sexual language
•  Framing sex conversations around family values
• Relationships > Sex

Today, we’re talking to Cindy Jobs.

Cindy is a professional organizer and ADHD coach who I met at last month’s ADHD conference.  And I’m really glad I did, because organization is a thing we ADHD folks tend to struggle with.

In today’s episode, we talk about organization as a balance between space and stuff, the clutter/anxiety connection, and making holiday kits.

 

In Today’s Episode We Discuss:

• Why Cindy enjoys working with ADHD folks
• The benefits of having a "Why"
• Organization takes time
• Brendan's two organizational insights (that came to him really late in life)
• Clutter correlating with anxiety
• Closet drama
• Getting rid of duplicates 
• Looking at space like real estate
• Storing like things together
• Organizing through kits
• The geography of organization
• Reducing the barrier to entry
• Reducing the barrier to completion
• Organizational consent

 

Guest Links:

• Cindy's Website: https://www.cindyjobs.com

ADHD Essentials Links:

• Learn about & Register for The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups 
• ADHD Essentials Homepage
• Contact Brendan at brendan@ADHDessentials.com
• Join Our Facebook Community

Jon and his wife Monica run Connect ADHD out of Australia.  Jon’s a brilliant guy, and we go deep on multiple topics related to ADHD.  In today’s episode, we talk about how ADHD leads to our kids’ behavioral explosions, how environment affects our ADHD, the importance of science in ADHD.

I got to spend time with Jon (and Monica. Her workshop was excellent!) at this year's ADHD conference, and editing the show this week felt like I was reuniting with him. I look forward to continuing our relationship in the future.

 

Guest Links:

• Jon’s Website: http://www.connectadhd.com

 

Shameless Plugs:  

• Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events/ for details about the monthly Q&A with Eric Tivers.
• Learn about The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups!
• Or register at https://www.adhdessentials.com/sign-up/.

 

In Today’s Episode We Discuss:

• Jon’s ADHD Origin Story
• ADHD Coaches as the Missing Link for Big Pharma
• How Jon works with his clients
• ADHD & Potential
• Why Scientific Studies spoke to Jon
• ADHD & moments of connection
• How & Why Brendan does his first sessions.
• ADHD Explosions:  The Neurochemistry, and recovering afterward
• Fight, Flight, Freeze, (Fib)
• Forgiving & Fixing
• The Underpinning of “We’re all good people”
• Russell Barkley’s Extended Phenotype model of ADHD
• Brendan’s Executive Function Algebra
• Jon’s Performance Influences Model for Executive Function
• The  Myths of ADHD
• Monitoring your inner voice
• Using Monitoring, Referencing, and Self-Direction to manage ADHD

ADHD Essentials Links:

• Learn about & Register for The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups 
• ADHD Essentials Homepage
• Contact Brendan at brendan@ADHDessentials.com
• Join Our Facebook Community

Today, we’re talking to Richard Kelley!

I've received excellent feedback on past episodes that looked at the history of ADHD through a personal lens.  So, I decided to bring in my friend Richard Kelley.  Rich is an Assistant Executive Director with the Massachusetts School Administrators Association (MSAA).  And he has been working in education for longer than I've ben alive.  (Admittedly, only by a year.)

(Side note:  I erroneously identify Rich as the President of MSAA during the interview.  Thankfully, he corrected me.  Sometimes the ADHD wins.) 

In today’s episode, Rich shares his experience as an educator for over 42 years, and how he’s seen the approach to ADHD at school change over the decades.  It's an interesting conversation.  I hope you enjoy it! 

 

ADHD Essentials Links:

• Learn about & Register for The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups 
• ADHD Essentials Homepage
• Contact Brendan at brendan@ADHDessentials.com
• Join Our Facebook Community

Today, we’re talking to Keith Griffin!

Keith is an ADHD coach, and host of “This ADHD Life” on YouTube.  He’s also got a webinar on surviving the holidays with ADHD coming up through the Attention Deficit Disorder Association.  

Keith can be found at ThisADHDLife.com.

 

In Today’s Episode We Discuss:

• Information Overload
• How music can help our morning routines
• No screens in the bedroom
• Productivity Tips
• Tragic Stories
• How to Positivify
• Brendan's "Today's Awesome" gimmick on FB
• The difference between eating watermelon and eating grapes
• Self advocacy
• And doing less

 

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I'm at the International Conference on ADHD.  Here is a brief episode where I share a few takeaways.  

Today, we’re talking to Tamara Roseer.

 Tamara is the president of the ADHD Coaches Organization, the co-founder of Acorn Leadership, and the founder of the ADHD Center of West Michigan.

In today’s episode, we talk about parenting as leadership, developing core values in our kids, ways to avoid passing anxiety on to our kids, and the importance of being authentic when we parent.

 

Guest Links:

• ADHD Coaches Organization   https://www.adhdcoaches.org
• ADHD Center of West Michigan  http://www.miadhd.com

 

ADHD Essentials Links:

• Learn about & Register for The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups 
• ADHD Essentials Homepage
• Contact Brendan at brendan@ADHDessentials.com
• Join Our Facebook Community

 

Today, we’re talking to Mindy Katz.

 

When Mindy learned that she and her daughter had ADHD, it led to her becoming an ADHD coach, and eventually a Social Worker. She’s a big proponent of positive psychology, and developing resiliency in our kids. 

 

In today’s episode, we talk about how to manage our sabotaging thoughts,  upward spirals of emotion, and the power of curiosity.

 

 

Alright, let’s get rolling.

 

 

 

Shameless Plugs:  

 

• Go tohttps://www.adhdrewired.com/events/ for details about the monthly Q&A with Eric Tivers.
• Learn about The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups!
• Or register at https://www.adhdessentials.com/sign-up/.

 

In Today’s Episode We Discuss:

• Being calendar challenged
• Why no two people with ADHD have the same challenges
• Managing self-sabotaging thoughts
• Positive Psychology
• Growth vs. Fixed Mindset
• Valuing the process more than the results
• Resilience
• How perfectionism undermines our efforts
• Upward Spirals of Emotion
• Positive Paper Chains
• How hard it is to talk about what’s going well
• Using curiosity to celebrate good news
• Kids want to succeed.  If they aren’t, something is wrong with the process
• Coach training & social work
• Going back to work as a grey-haired adult
• Alan Brown’s See-Saw Visual

 

Guest Links:

• Mindy’s Website: http://mindyschwartzkatz.com

 

 

ADHD Essentials Links:

• Learn about & Register for The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups 
• ADHD Essentials Homepage
• Contact Brendan at brendan@ADHDessentials.com
• Join Our Facebook Community

Today, we’re talking to Rene Brooks from Black Girl, Lost Keys.

I always enjoy it when I talk get to talk to someone for the first time, but it feels like they’re already a good friend. Talking to Rene was one of those times, and it was a pleasure.  

With to her clear memory of childhood, and her thorough understanding of ADHD, she makes the experience of having the ADHD both understandable and relatable.

In today’s episode, we discuss all kinds of things.  From Rene’s journey with ADHD, to the extra scrutiny African American children experience in school and how that affects the ADHD diagnosis, to the importance of going with the flow of ADHD.  We even delve into the controversial land of whether or not ADHD is a superpower.  (But you’ll have to listen to find out how we fall on it.)

Shameless Plugs:

• Go to https://www.adhdrewired.com/events/ for details about the monthly Q&A with Eric Tivers.
• Learn about & Register for The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups here!

 

In Today’s Episode We Discuss:

• Rene's Journey with ADHD
• The origin of Black Girl, Lost Keys
• The importance of common ground
• ADHD & "Laziness"
• How African American kids being more heavily scrutinized affects ADHD diagnosis
• ADHD & the Age of Distraction
• Time Blindess
• Fixed vs. Growth Mindset
• School as a Self-Esteem Shaper
• Navigating the fear of failure
• The Importance of Early Diagnosis

 

Guest Links:

• Rene’s Website:  http://blackgirllostkeys.com
• Rene’s Facebook Page:  https://www.facebook.com/blackgirllostkeys/

 

ADHD Essentials Links:

• Learn about & Register for The ADHD Essentials Online Parent Coaching Groups 
• ADHD Essentials Homepage
• Contact Brendan at brendan@ADHDessentials.com
• Join Our Facebook Community